I don't know whether I'd rather throw myself off a bridge or throw my husband in front of a bus. I'm not entirely sure. All I know is that this marriage thing seems to be way beyond him.
No matter how hard I try, I cannot get through to him that this thing is totally on it's way out unless we do something really fucking drastic.
There are numerous issues, of course. We both feel that the distributiuon of household chores is unfair (he thinks the kitchen is always a mess, I think if he isn't going to cook the least he can do it clean). There are all the regular stupid married people issues. Of course, the greatest of these is money.
We've got about $17k in debt racked up that we need to pay off. Our highest interest credit card only has a balance of $1600, so I offered to take the meager $300 in my savings account and put it on that balance. I figured if I could pay off 20% of it in one fell swoop, we might be able to get that one paid off in just over a month and cancel it.
It seemed like the perfect solution. Have that once card gone. Cancelled. Paid off and forgotten. It would be something that we would have accomplished together that would keep us inspired to keep going.
I spent the WHOLE morning crunching numbers trying to figure out how to dig us out of this hole and guess how he ends the conversation?
"I think I'm going to have to splurge and by myself a new monitor"
I am writing this post from his computer. I am reading it ON HIS MONITOR which works fucking FINE.